• Midlife Women,  Retirement,  The Nine Facets,  Women Over 50

    The 3 Biggest Mistakes I Made When I Retired…and How I Fixed Them

    A Pivotal Moment in a Major Life Transition I experienced an awkward moment at a women’s event when someone asked for my business card. I had recently ended my 30-plus year career, didn’t have a current business card, and when asked what I did, I didn’t know quite how to answer. Without my business card, I had no job title, company, address, or contact information. I felt invisible without my career identity. I responded, “I recently retired.” This answer often stops the conversation cold or elicits benign responses such as “must be nice”, or “oh, I could never retire”.  Then the conversation quickly shifts. The better conversationalists ask a second…

  • Caregiving,  Midlife Women,  Self-Care

    Powerful Ways to Overcome Caregiving Challenges

    Are you one of legions of women struggling to balance the care-giving needs of a loved one with self-care and your own health and well-being? If so, you’re not alone. To balance on this precipice is a major life challenge. Over a recent lunch, I talked with a good friend who has become the primary caregiver of   her husband with unexpected serious health issues. We assume most care-giving would be for aging parents, but the reality is care-giving for spouses and other family members is not uncommon. Without complaining, but very candid, my friend admitted how she’s been struggling with the effects care-giving is having on her, as well…

  • Caregiving,  Midlife Women,  Retirement,  Self-Care

    5 Real Fears of Women in Midlife

    While out on a recent morning walk, a good friend and I were discussing some of the challenges we and other women are dealing with now. Overall, our own lives are good today—our grown kids are thriving, everyone in our immediate families is healthy, we feel financially secure and blessed to have good, solid marriages. Even so, we have our own fears about what this second half of life holds–fears most all midlife women have. Health–our own health and the health of those we love–will it change and when? Financial— will we have enough money to last us our lifetime? Friends—our relationships and communities are changing, who are my friends?…