• Life Transitions,  Midlife Women,  The Nine Facets,  Traditions,  Women Over 50

    An Old Box of Photos Bring Tears, Connections and a Fresh Perspective

    Treasures from Past Generations Lifting the dusty-covered lid of the bulky gray Rubbermaid storage container, the musty smell of old paper caught me by surprise. I recognized the scent of years gone by and lives recorded on the photographs my mother packed away decades ago. My eyes caught sight of the gold-edged brown cardboard frame peeking out from beneath a manila folder bulging with loose black and white snapshots. I pulled it out. My heart raced as I realized what I had uncovered—my mother’s family pictures, five generations of images buried in that box. Reverently, I eased out the manila folder of loose photos out and placed it on the…

  • #microblogMonday,  Adventurer

    MicroblogMonday #27 Adjusting to the Winds of Change

    “When the winds of life change, adjust your sails and modify your course.” Even the best of plans require adjustments along the way. Unanticipated events, new and better information, unexpected obstacles, and other outside forces often require we make changes. Redefining our goal demands flexibility and revision of the initial plan. Sometimes we become so determined and single-minded, we lose sight of the “why” we are doing something. The ability to adapt is an evolutionary requirement if we are to survive and thrive. We cannot change the wind or other forces of nature, but as a seasoned sailor will tell you, adjusting the sail to the prevailing conditions will allow…

  • Midlife Women,  Retirement,  The Nine Facets,  Women Over 50

    The 3 Biggest Mistakes I Made When I Retired…and How I Fixed Them

    A Pivotal Moment in a Major Life Transition I experienced an awkward moment at a women’s event when someone asked for my business card. I had recently ended my 30-plus year career, didn’t have a current business card, and when asked what I did, I didn’t know quite how to answer. Without my business card, I had no job title, company, address, or contact information. I felt invisible without my career identity. I responded, “I recently retired.” This answer often stops the conversation cold or elicits benign responses such as “must be nice”, or “oh, I could never retire”.  Then the conversation quickly shifts. The better conversationalists ask a second…