• Caregiving,  Midlife Women,  Relationships,  The Nine Facets,  Women Over 50

    5 Powerful Ways to Support an Exhausted Caregiver

    “Please……don’t give me one more $#%& thing to add to my to-do list!” My close friend stated this nicely, but emphatically, after I suggested she should get more rest. As the primary caregiver, medical advocate, designated head of household and emotional support for her husband, she is beyond exhausted. I thought I was being helpful with some sage advice. Of course, rest is important. So is air. She knows she needs rest. This was clearly obvious and from her perspective, I just gave her one more thing to do! After I apologized and we laughed, I asked her what support she would find helpful. While there is no “best way”…

  • Caregiving,  Midlife Women,  Self-Care

    Powerful Ways to Overcome Caregiving Challenges

    Are you one of legions of women struggling to balance the care-giving needs of a loved one with self-care and your own health and well-being? If so, you’re not alone. To balance on this precipice is a major life challenge. Over a recent lunch, I talked with a good friend who has become the primary caregiver of   her husband with unexpected serious health issues. We assume most care-giving would be for aging parents, but the reality is care-giving for spouses and other family members is not uncommon. Without complaining, but very candid, my friend admitted how she’s been struggling with the effects care-giving is having on her, as well…

  • Caregiving,  The Nine Facets

    Caring for Your Loved One

    We have all heard about the emotional and physical toll caring for a loved one takes on the the caregiver. Many of us have experienced it firsthand. Stress, exhaustion, frequent colds, irritability, feeling helpless, and neglecting their own needs, are just a few common complaints of a long-term personal home caregiver. Recently a very close friend, stressed by her care-taking situation, agreed to a girl-friends’ getaway with me for a few days. Her longtime love is older and sadly, he’s been in declining health for a few years now. She is one of the most caring, loving people I know, and the increasing day to day demands over the past…