• Midlife Women,  Retirement,  The Nine Facets,  Women Over 50

    The 3 Biggest Mistakes I Made When I Retired…and How I Fixed Them

    A Pivotal Moment in a Major Life Transition I experienced an awkward moment at a women’s event when someone asked for my business card. I had recently ended my 30-plus year career, didn’t have a current business card, and when asked what I did, I didn’t know quite how to answer. Without my business card, I had no job title, company, address, or contact information. I felt invisible without my career identity. I responded, “I recently retired.” This answer often stops the conversation cold or elicits benign responses such as “must be nice”, or “oh, I could never retire”.  Then the conversation quickly shifts. The better conversationalists ask a second…

  • Activism,  The Nine Facets,  Women Over 50

    7 Ways Reluctant Activists Can (Safely) Make a Difference

    I’m a Reluctant Activist I am deeply troubled by what’s going on in today’s world, particularly the systemic racism we see played out again and again across our nation. As a white American woman, I recognize I must take an active role in helping to dismantle oppressive structures with the goal of an equitable, safe and just society for all. No longer can I stand quietly as a witness. I must actively commit to the solution. Otherwise I am part of the problem. I need to step up now. But here’s the problem: I have never considered myself an activist. Not that I don’t care passionately about issues. It’s just…

  • Activism,  Midlife Women,  Pleasure,  Self-Care,  The Nine Facets

    8 Things I Did to Change My Perception of the World

    I have been feeling overwhelmed and powerless the past few months by all the anger, violence, and hatred in the news.  The problems feel so big, well beyond my capacity to do anything meaningful to make a difference. I became irritated, short-termpered and wasn't sleeping well. Rather than focusing on the big events, I decided to shift my focus to living my best simple life every day for the next 30 days. At first, it felt like denial, escaping from the "tragedy of the day", or I was becoming uncaring and out of touch. I made a few conscious consistent changes in my everyday activities to see what happened.