• Activism,  The Nine Facets,  Women Over 50

    7 Ways Reluctant Activists Can (Safely) Make a Difference

    I’m a Reluctant Activist I am deeply troubled by what’s going on in today’s world, particularly the systemic racism we see played out again and again across our nation. As a white American woman, I recognize I must take an active role in helping to dismantle oppressive structures with the goal of an equitable, safe and just society for all. No longer can I stand quietly as a witness. I must actively commit to the solution. Otherwise I am part of the problem. I need to step up now. But here’s the problem: I have never considered myself an activist. Not that I don’t care passionately about issues. It’s just…

  • Activism,  Midlife Women,  Pleasure,  Self-Care,  The Nine Facets

    8 Things I Did to Change My Perception of the World

    I have been feeling overwhelmed and powerless the past few months by all the anger, violence, and hatred in the news.  The problems feel so big, well beyond my capacity to do anything meaningful to make a difference. I became irritated, short-termpered and wasn't sleeping well. Rather than focusing on the big events, I decided to shift my focus to living my best simple life every day for the next 30 days. At first, it felt like denial, escaping from the "tragedy of the day", or I was becoming uncaring and out of touch. I made a few conscious consistent changes in my everyday activities to see what happened.

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    Midlife Women,  Pleasure,  Retirement,  The Nine Facets,  Women Over 50

    Traveling Solo: The Myths and The Magic

    Not long ago, a  good friend shared with me her horror story of the travel companion from Hell! She had asked someone she knew casually in her hiking group to join her on a week-long Road Scholar Grand Canyon hiking trip. This travel companion made the trip miserable for my friend–very demanding, moody, rude, and inflexible with just about everything. After that trip, my friend said, “No more , never again will I invite someone I don’t know really well to travel with.” Fortunately, she has continued to travel solo and had some wonderful experiences. When we were younger, leisure travel was most often with a spouse/partner, children, or girl…