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    Life Transitions,  The Nine Facets,  Women Over 50

    Nine Ways You Can Brighten Up Your Life Now: Part 1 of 2

    Within Each Ending is a New Beginning So many overwhelming endings and life changes happened in my fortieth year. For starters, my marriage ended. We sold our house and my children and I moved to our new home in a nearby town. My dad died, and my career went into a new direction. If my life were a book, several chapters ended at once. As painful as these events were for me, looking back now I see them as beginnings of my new life. I was not alone. Endings were all around me——deaths, divorces, jobs, and changing relationships. Fast forward two decades when I retired from a 35-plus year career.…

  • Midlife Women,  Retirement,  The Nine Facets,  Women Over 50

    The 3 Biggest Mistakes I Made When I Retired…and How I Fixed Them

    A Pivotal Moment in a Major Life Transition I experienced an awkward moment at a women’s event when someone asked for my business card. I had recently ended my 30-plus year career, didn’t have a current business card, and when asked what I did, I didn’t know quite how to answer. Without my business card, I had no job title, company, address, or contact information. I felt invisible without my career identity. I responded, “I recently retired.” This answer often stops the conversation cold or elicits benign responses such as “must be nice”, or “oh, I could never retire”.  Then the conversation quickly shifts. The better conversationalists ask a second…

  • Activism,  The Nine Facets,  Women Over 50

    7 Ways Reluctant Activists Can (Safely) Make a Difference

    I’m a Reluctant Activist I am deeply troubled by what’s going on in today’s world, particularly the systemic racism we see played out again and again across our nation. As a white American woman, I recognize I must take an active role in helping to dismantle oppressive structures with the goal of an equitable, safe and just society for all. No longer can I stand quietly as a witness. I must actively commit to the solution. Otherwise I am part of the problem. I need to step up now. But here’s the problem: I have never considered myself an activist. Not that I don’t care passionately about issues. It’s just…