• Midlife Women,  Retirement,  The Nine Facets,  Women Over 50

    The 3 Biggest Mistakes I Made When I Retired…and How I Fixed Them

    A Pivotal Moment in a Major Life Transition I experienced an awkward moment at a women’s event when someone asked for my business card. I had recently ended my 30-plus year career, didn’t have a current business card, and when asked what I did, I didn’t know quite how to answer. Without my business card, I had no job title, company, address, or contact information. I felt invisible without my career identity. I responded, “I recently retired.” This answer often stops the conversation cold or elicits benign responses such as “must be nice”, or “oh, I could never retire”.  Then the conversation quickly shifts. The better conversationalists ask a second…

  • Beyond 40 Achievers,  Friendship,  Life Purpose,  Midlife Women,  Retirement,  Women Over 50

    5 Steps to Gain New Perspective and Balance After a Major Life Change

    In the early morning quiet, I felt I was free floating over my former life and the roles I had. And sadly aware of the loss of several cherished relationships. I saw my communities grow smaller as I drifted farther away. I had no moorings, no balance,  no terra firma to stand on. I wasn’t in a hot-air balloon—nor was I having a near death experience. It had been nearly a year since I had “officially retired” from my long career. I felt as though I’d untied the last of the ropes which had tethered me to the safety of the life I knew so well. In retirement I lost…

  • Friendship,  Motivation,  Relationships,  Retirement

    Six Ways I was Inspired by a Celebration of Life

    On Saturday, I attended a close friend’s Life Celebration, a man who lived a very full 91 years.  I knew George for over 20 years when he met and fell in love with my close friend. They shared a beautiful life together and she was there with him the evening he peacefully passed. The four of us traveled, enjoyed many wonderful weekends and holidays together over the years. Over 200 people gathered on the beautiful sunny, crisp California afternoon to share stories, hugs, tears, humor, and his favorite foods prepared beautifully by his amazing, talented chef-daughter. When family and friends gather for a Celebration of Life, we often learn several…